Positive Self Talk And Why It's Important
Did you know we talk to ourselves in our head more than all our other conversations combined? Our self-talk makes up a whopping 80% of all our of communication!!Since we talk to ourselves so much, it’s super important that we’re being positive and kind.
That’s right..we need to treat ourselves just like we’d treat anybody else and we must educate our kiddos to follow the same self-talk rules.
Teaching positive self-talk is a no-brainer if we want our children to live long and happy lives and to improve their chances of having strong mental health.
Self-Love
I can’t stress how crucial it is to love ourselves & treat ourselves with kindness.
The best place to start with self-care is right in our very own noggins!
Since most of the ‘talking’ we do is located in our own heads, we need to learn how to listen to the words we tell ourselves and regulate them to be as healthy as possible.
We also need to show our kids how to do the same!
Share and Be Aware
A helpful idea for assisting your children to cultivate superhero style self-talk is to have them identify and share!
Teaching kids to pay attention to the words they say inside their heads and share them with you is fantastic. Encourage them to do this daily. You can work together to reframe any negative talk or beliefs.
Here’s a great example of how you can participate in reframing un-useful self-talk with your child. If they say they keep telling themselves that they have no friends, you can help them reframe in the following ways:
‘Up until now, I’ve felt lonely. Today I will find a way to make a new friend.’
‘I am good at making friends’ or
‘I am good to my friends’
… Are examples of awesome, empowering affirmations they could choose to use in place of any negative statements.
Another fantastic tool is using solution language.
If you hear your child saying they are thinking words like ‘I can’t’, ‘I should’ or ‘I’ll never be able to’, it’s time to do some shifting.These are guild-ridden words and have no place in a positive noggin!
Recognise those negative thoughts and stop them in their tracks! Help your child to substitute words like ‘I can’ or ‘I will’ when they’re using self-talk.
Help your kiddos to identify clues of stinkin’ thinkin’ and replace them with the wealth of words they have in their positivity toolbox.
Once they can figure out their own negative thinking, they’ll begin to reframe those thoughts and eventually, automatically change their thoughts and keep going!
Teach them to turn around negativity the moment it starts. You’re awesome and you know it, pat yourself on the back! ?
World Inside Our Heads
Whether we like it or not, there’s a world fear and worry inside our heads!
We all need cheerleaders in life and if we work at it, we can be our own very best cheerleader.
Who better than me, myself and I? You’re always there to keep yourself company, so don’t forget to be good company!
You can tell your kids that lots of superheroes, professional athletes and superstars use positive self-talk to motivate themselves.
It’s a well-known fact that 90% of success starts in your mental world.
Everyone has doubts, even the most famous, successful people in the world. It’s how they choose to manage their inner world that makes or breaks them.
Positive self-talk keeps them going and it can do the same for you!Try talking to yourself out loud so your children can hear you.Loving yourself out loud will cement the good words in your head and in the heads of your kiddos.It’s important that your child understands the power of the words they speak to themselves!
Do you remember cassette tapes? Your child probably doesn’t, but that’s OK!
Think of your self-talk like a cassette tape playing over and over and over in your head on repeat.If you don’t like what your cassette is playing, then simply turn it over to side B or better yet, record something you do like over it!
Up until now you may have had a negative loop, but just like the good ol’ cassette tapes of yesteryear, you can just make a new mixed tape…but this one is all good words, because after all, you rock! ?
Positive Self Talk & It's Effect On Our Kids
Xo Lisa oX
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